Safety Planning - When You're Thinking Of Leaving The Relationship

As confusing and damaging as this experience is, it is not your entire story. It might not feel like it, but there are options and resources to help you. If everyone involved is willing to put in the time and effort, relationships can be improved and strengthened. However, one party cannot do all the work. Below are some things to consider as you start planning your next steps.

Safety Plan: Employment and Financial Planning

Documentation

• Collect and keep at home:

  • Employment records (start date, promotions, praise, etc.).

  • Emails, messages, or other evidence of harmful workplace behaviour.

  
  

• Start a written log of incidents, including:

  • Date, time, location, people involved, and what happened.

  
  

• Create a timeline to show the progression of your experiences for future reference.

Financial Preparation

• Can you afford to leave your job? If not, can you:

  • Taking on part-time or freelance work?

  • Cutting non-essential expenses?

  • Exploring alternative living arrangements?

    
    

• Check with your insurance provider about how long your medical benefits last after leaving your job.

  • Use available benefits now (e.g., visit dentist, optometrist, therapist).

    
    

• If possible, start saving small amounts from each paycheque.

  
  

• Quietly ask HR or a trusted manager if being laid off is an option (to qualify for Employment Insurance).

• Talk to your doctor about eligibility for Employment Insurance (EI) sick benefits.

• Once you’ve documented your experience, call the Workers Compensation Board of Manitoba to find out if you'd qualify for a psychological injury claim.

• If you resign and it feels overwhelming, contact the Community Unemployed Help Centre for support navigating income assistance programs.

  
  

If You Decide to Resign

• Write a clear resignation letter and keep a copy (see templates for inspiration).

• Check your required notice period, in Manitoba there are several factors that determine how much time is expected.

  
  

• For exit interviews:

  • Ask to bring someone you trust to take notes.

  • If you end up going alone, write down what's said and email the main points back to the person you meet with. This creates a record.

  • If you feel unsafe, you can decline to attend.

    
    

Job Search Preparation

• Save copies of work you’re proud of and any certifications.

  
  

• Update your resume to reflect your skills and experience.

  
  

• Reach out to trusted colleagues who may serve as references.

Final Note

Even if you choose to stay in your current job, following these steps helps you stay prepared for what may come.

Your safety and sense of security are important—plan with care.